Is It Better to Give or Receive?

This is the time of gift GIVING right? But, is it really better to give than to receive? I think receiving sometimes take a back seat to giving, for all the wrong reasons. Let me explain… Have you ever put a lot of thought into a gift, given it to that special someone, only to be disappointed by a less than enthusiastic nod from the receiver? Headstand Snowman. We repeat that scenario when instead of acknowledging the little things in life that others do for us we only see “room for improvement”. Especially when it comes to the people we love the most.

I’ve committed to turning it upside down this holiday season!

Here are six ways to be an excellent, over-the-top receiver…

  1. Notice the gifts given to you everyday from people you come in contact with. A smile, open door, helpful advice, small act of kindness, etc. Most folks just want to be helpful or noticed.
  2. Take time (like two minutes) to tell a loved one the sweet impact they’ve had on your life. Use phrases like: “I appreciate you!” or “I really enjoy your company.” or “The way you __________ makes me smile.” By acknowledging their gifts you show that you “receive” them.
  3. Be Genuine – Pay a genuine compliment by looking someone in the eyes and acknowledging their worth for no other reason than just because. Really “see” another human “being” rather than just look.
  4. Listen – Turn on the “listening” ear and turn off the intense desire to run at the mouth. Receive another by “listening” not just hearing.
  5. Show love – Bend down to look a child in the eye and tell him/her how much you love the present they put together out of Popsicle sticks, glue, and glitter.
  6. Be Grateful – Maintain a heart full of gratitude for the little things in life. Whenever I feel resentful, overworked, or under appreciated I play a little game. Which is this…to name as many things as I can that I am grateful for in one minute. It’s the single most important gift I can give and receive from myself – a change of heart.

When we truly receive we are thinking not about ourselves, rather, we are acknowledging the giver, their kindness, humility, and their individual worth. In that moment of receiving…we are in a true abundant state of mind. “The most important thing you can do for another human being is to validate their existence.” ~ Marie Forleo Is it better to give than to receive?

I’d like to hear about what brings you the most happiness this season! Please share your thoughts below.

Self Discipline = Serving Your Highest Good

I’m writing this blog from my outside office as I bask in the last warm rays of the sun and watch them slowly sink below the west mountains before giving way to the cool fall evening. I pause… reflect…and move on with my thoughts about self-discipline…

Martial arts require a tremendous amount of self discipline. Photo: Glen Edelson on Flickr

Self-discipline has always been a wrestling match between what I want to do and what’s good for me. Do I go to bed early like I “should” so I’m fresh for the next day? OR do I stay up late and tie up loose ends at work? OR catch up on my favorite TV program? OR finish an informational YouTube video I started earlier? OR <fill in the blank>.

There are so many good choices. How do you know which are the best choices? The BEST choices require SELF DISCIPLINE. Sometimes getting it all done isn’t realistic. How do you balance it out and not feel guilty if you’re not ON TASK and MAKING THINGS HAPPEN and PRODUCTIVE? Continue reading

What Can You Eliminate?

I just got my “Costco Connection” August 2011 Issue in the mail a few days ago. In browsing I came across a great article by Dr. Robert J. Leon that struck a chord with me and made me think of ways I can improve my health and wellness.

In the article he answers a common question posed by many of his patients and non-patients alike and that is: “What vitamins or pills would you recommend to improve my health?” Continue reading

Bikram / Hot Yoga Part IV: Losing Weight

I had a thought while in class today (one of many)… “Bikram would be a great way for wrestlers to lose a couple of pounds of water weight in a short period of time.” I’ll bet that method has been explored. If you or someone you know has taken Bikram to shed water weight please leave a comment below. I’d love to hear about your experience. Now the more important question is…can you lose pounds of fat?

Yes! You will sweat! Photo: Life

This is a question I get on a weekly basis…CAN I LOSE WEIGHT DOING YOGA? Of course, like any form of exercise, any yoga class you do is going to help your metabolism by strengthening the muscles of the body. If you eat to FUEL the body in a healthy way your body will respond by shedding unwanted pounds. Your body wants to be in homeostasis (a state of dynamic balance). What you eat and think greatly determines how that equilibrium plays out. The focus and mind set in yoga is on the beauty and movement of the physical body, the connection you have with self and God, and your mental and emotional clarity. Continue reading